How to say YES to yourself

Would you believe me if I told you I was the biggest introvert an extravert can ever be? In social settings with my friends and people I am comfortable with, I can get my party on, talk about current events and when provoked even chat about politics. Put me in a bus, a plane, a car or a bar alone... I become one with the crickets. I can barely talk or mutter out a hello and ordering a drink is the most embarrassing thing to do.

This is called anxiety, or some may say social anxiety. I really wish it wasn't something I suffered from because I love to meet nee people and try new things. Just not alone.

So, two years ago I decided I wasn't going to continue to live this way. I was going to take my life back and I was going to start putting myself in socially awkward positions... for myself.

If this sounds like something you need to do, start small. Take yourself out on a date to the movie theater or go get dinner alone. Go shopping or do something local that wouldn't take too much effort or make you too uncomfortable.

From there step it up a notch! Go to the bar alone, order a drink. Talk to a stranger. Start to say hello to everyone you see when you go for a walk or when your out in your community. See if there are any social mixers going on and think about joining your local Chamber of Commerce. They often have mixers or events where a bunch of people get together to network.

These action steps are so helpful when thinking of getting out of your own brain and making some power moves.

They have helped me so much that I don't feel so anxious or worried about doing them and they allowed me to make a commitment to myself and my daughter to go on our first vacation SOLO! We did that one two summers ago with another one planned for last summer. Due to COVID we were unable to go last year.

This coming summer we booked a 6 week trip to Mexico! I decided I would partially wing this one and just kinda let the taco's guild us. No really, we are on a quest to just eat taco's and swim all summer long! Taco's and Cenotes (and Spanish Immersion)!

If you think I am not 100% freaking out about this trip, you are wrong! As we get closer, I hear the back of my brain telling me I'm a nut case and I can't do this. When that starts to happen, I start to plan a piece of our trip and think about the amazing time we will have.

Stay tuned to hear about our journey. Remember, say YES to yourself! If you want to live your life a certain way, you have to make that happen. No one else can, no one else will validate your thoughts and no one else can truly make you step into that person!

Just say YES!

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Until then... Happy Taco Tuesday!